There always comes a moment when clarity is granted.  It's not something that you can seek and find, but just when you find yourself at your most confused and you can't seem to figure out why nothing makes sense, all of a sudden, that missing piece falls into place.

I got that recently.

I was lost and trying to figure something out, but the harder I tried, the less I felt like I was making progress in the right direction.  From all sides I kept hearing "You have to do something, you have to say something" but the problem was, for me, that I didn't know what I was supposed to do or say or whatever because the situation as a whole didn't make sense to me.  Something was missing or something was unclear or something...  I knew something was wrong and I said to other people that something was wrong, or at least different. 

But all it took was a single piece of information for everything to make sense... and for me to wind up feeling like quite the heel for certain actions and behaviors, but when I mentally compose my apology now, knowing enough details that things actually make sense, I think I'm going to be apologizing for not being (more) psychic...  and that is going to be an interesting conversation to have.